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Modern Day Slavery: Courage Empowerment Forum Welcomes Rob Morris, Co-founder and President of Love146

It is estimated that human trafficking generates about $32 billion a year. The number of child victims of trafficking and exploitation throughout the world are too much to fathom, with 2 children being sold every minute.

In 2002, Rob Morris and a host of others founded Love146, an organization dedicated to ending the trafficking and sexual exploitation of children through prevention and aftercare programs.

Rob went undercover to a Southeast Asia brothel, a visit that revealed the cruelty and dangers young girls face in human trafficking. This experience changed Rob and his colleagues, compelling them onto a crusade to help children around the world subjected by this dark side of humanity.

Love146 as an organization has been named an “Agent of Change” by GQ Magazine. They also received a Myspace Impact Award for Social Justice.

Tune in Tuesday, May 17th at 9 PM Eastern, 6pm Pacific to www.party934.com, 94.9 FM Hudson Valley, NY to hear Rob Morris, co-founder and president of Love146 as we talk about modern day slavery.

Visit Love146’s site www.love146.org.

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Sports, Family, Faith and Fitness: Courage Empowerment Forum Welcomes Kimberli Russell of VH1’s Basketball Wives, Wife of Retired NBA Player Bryon Russell, Owner of Faith N Fitness, Board Member of the Non-profit WOVA

Kimberli Russell is an amazing woman.  She is the wife of now retired NBA player Bryon Russell and a mother to 3 lovely children. She placed her career goals aside to be a stay-at-home mom and to support one of the greatest shooting guards ever in the NBA. Now she is a cast member of VH1’s Basketball Wives, Season 2, with executive producer Shaunie O’ Neal.

But the dynamics of Kimberli doesn’t stop there! This educated, bright, spirited woman believes in empowerment. As a philanthropist she gives back to children and women affected by abuse. As a board member of Women of Vision Alliance (WOVA), founded by Bernadette Holder, she is furthering the empowerment of women and helping to strengthen their vision and she also hosts a program call WOVA Cafe on Blogtalk Radio.  Additionally, healthy living is a major part of her life and she is helping others achieve that as the Owner of Faith N Fitness: Mind, Body and Soul as a life and fitness coach.

Tune in Tuesday, April 26th at 9 PM Eastern, 6pm Pacific to www.party934.com, 94.9 FM Hudson Valley, NY to hear Kimberli Russell of VH1’s Basketball Wives and Owner of Faith N Fitness for this broadcast of inspiration.

Visit Kimberli’s website at www.kimberlirussell.com.

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The Impact of Domestic Violence and HIV/AIDS: Courage Empowerment Forum Welcomes Donna Savage, Author of The Blood and Tears of Domestic Violence, Executive Director of Domestic Violence and AIDS Mission of New Jersey

At the age of 16, Donna Savage left home and got married with the hopes of a better life. She did not imagine that her new husband would become her abuser for nearly twenty years. At the near end of her divorce, she was urged by her lawyer to write about her experiences in what became her first book titledThe Blood and Tears of Domestic Violence: A Survivor’s Revelation. Writing her debut book proved to be a struggle as she unraveled flooded memories of years of violence. It was until a tragedy that occured in the life of a friend that jolted Donna to move past the pain and forced her memoir’s completion.

Donna is also the founder of The Domestic Violence and AIDS Mission of New Jersey, a faith based organization serving those affected by domestic violence and AIDS. It’s also the home of the first abusers helpline called the National 24 Hour Abuser Hotline.

Tune in Tuesday, April 19th at 9 PM Eastern, 6pm Pacific to www.party934.com, 94.9 FM Hudson Valley, NY to hear Donna Savage, author and founder of The Domestic Violence and AIDS Mission of New Jersey for this enlightening program about abuse and healing.

Visit Donna’s websites at www.donnasavagepublishing.com and www.dvamnj.org.

Gerard M. Williams, Gospel Vocalist

Gerard M. Williams is a multi-talented gospel vocalist and guitarist. He has a strong, mature voice that truly compliments the message he spreads of love and hope in his spirited gospel tracks. What you hear on his album is what you get in live performances, a truly passionate and gifted artist. His sound will not let you down; his poetic lines are inspiring and uplifting. He is destined be one of the next great gospel performers, ‘I don’t want to wait on someone else to do it for me…I have a purpose to get my music out and the faith that it will happen….Music is my ministry, and to spread it is what I am commissioned to do.”

www.gerardmwilliams.com

Bio

Gerard M Williams has established a strong local following in the Triangle region of North Carolina, and his following is expanding rapidly across the country via access to the internet…

Singing since the age of 4 Gerard knew that his roots would be in gospel music, the music of TRUTH. Growing up in the city of Durham, North Carolina, home of two of the biggest names in gospel music, Shirley Caesar and John P. Kee; Gerard knew he had big footsteps to follow. Likewise, he knew he had wonderful examples to pattern himself after in all aspects of the gospel music industry from song selection to performance, from writing to publishing, from studying to living the life he sings about. Now he is ready to share all that he has learned with the masses. …

Lastly as a member of his high schools honor chorus, Spartan Song, Gerard was afforded the opportunity to sing for the US Secretary of State on national television. Following high school, Gerard was accepted into the coveted Berklee College of Music in Boston, Massachusetts. After enrolling at Berklee he became a part of an auditioned Gospel group called “Overjoyed.” With Overjoyed, he traveled to and performed in Switzerland. One of his highest achievements while at Berklee was being a part of the biggest vocal show that Berklee has to offer in which he was selected 1 of 8 performers in a show that well over 100 vocalists had auditioned for.

In addition to all of his scholastic musical endeavors, Gerard always remained close to his gospel roots in his home church and choir. As a result had the opportunity to tour with his church choir throughout England including, London and Durham. These events and his season of preparation eventually lead to Williams having the opportunity to sing background with such gospel greats as Tremaine Hawkins, and Dennis Montgomery. Gerard has had the opportunity to minister to literally thousands as a member of the Shirley Caesar Outreach Ministries Conference choir as well as being showcased in the nightly services more recently he has been showcased at the singers and musicians conference hosted by Dr. Dorinda Clark Cole of the Legendary Clark Sisters. He has had also had the opportunity to be showcased at the Gospel Music Workshop of America.

Working on his debut release consisting of Gospel, Inspirational and Soul tracks, Gerard hopes he will capture a new audience that will have the opportunity to experience the soul stirring voice that many of his other loyal listeners have become accustomed with. Writing songs since the age of 12 Gerard has been focused on writing conscious music that listeners will be able to embrace. Songs like “So Glad” ,Hurting People and “Walk Out Of The Rain” evoke feelings of hope and determination and the calming worship rendition of “Blessed Be the Lord” show many sides of diversity in Gerard’s music, which speaks of Hope, eternal salvation, and Love  With his eyes poised on a lasting recording career, the formal training to go forth, complete submission to the will of GOD and the drive and goal to succeed, Gerard M Williams is sure to become a name that will be synonymous with gospel music for years to come. You can read Gerard’s full bio by visiting his www.gerardmwilliams.com.

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When the Law Fails to Serve and Protect: Courage Empowerment Forum Welcomes Author Rosa Torres

What happens when the one you vow to love betrays  you through abuse?  What would you do if you go to seek the help of law enforcement, only to find out there is no help because the one you love is law enforcement?  Rosa Torres was faced with those decisions when she met a man over 20 years ago that became her husband who was  a police officer. Their relationship with violence resulted in her receiving severe, physical battering.  Rosa found herself facing a system that became numb to her cries for help.  Rosa’s retelling of years living with domestic violence in her memoir Abuse Hidden Behind the Badge is a message of “self-affirmation and love of one’s self-worth” and a “remarkable reminder that hope is the entity that will prevail in life’s darkest moments,” according to Anthony P. Johnson, Philadelphia political candidate.

Tune in Tuesday, March 29th at 9 PM Eastern, 6pm Pacific to www.party934.com, 94.9 FM Hudson Valley, NY to hear Rosa Torres, author of Abuse Hidden Behind the Badge and learn more about her heroing story.  We will also play various music selections throughout the hour.

Visit Author Rosa Torres’s website at http://torrespublishing.com

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Shalanda Moten on Courage Empowerment Forum, Featuring the Music of Natalie Brown

 

February is National Teen Dating Violence and Awareness Month.  Is your teenager safe with their dating partner?  How well do you know who they are dating?  Do you know even know that they are dating?  According to a study from 2006, about one in 11 teens reports being a victim of physical dating abuse each year.  What happens in the relationships of teens can be fun and exciting but what happens can also be dangerous.

In this week’s broadcast of Lyn Twyman’s Courage Empowerment Forum on www.party934.com, 94.9 FM Hudson Valley, NY, Lyn’s special guest is Shalanda Moten, founder and executive director of the Dating Violence Prevention Center.  We’ll discuss with Shalanda what inspired her to create her organization and the programs they offer to help young women and the community prevent dating violence.  We’ll also learn more about the “My Boyfriend Rocks Campaign”.  This program is a must hear for all parents of young people who are dating or on the cusp of dating.

Go to the link and listen live every Tuesday night at 9pm ET!  www.party934.com

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About Shalanda Moten:

Shalanda Moten currently serves as the Chief Executive Officer for the Dating Violence Prevention Center. As such, she has extensive experience working with non-profits in all aspects of management, programming, and community development. Her specialty areas include (a) clinical research, (b) crisis intervention, (c) prevention services, and (d)psychoeducational groups. Moreover, her appointments include service to Liz Claiborne’s Love is Not Abuse (LINA) Coalition, Start Strong Atlanta at the Jane Fonda Center, Ending Violence Against Women (EVAW): The HBCU Project, Communities in Schools Atlanta, Gwinnett Children’s Shelter, Grady Rape Crisis Center, and Hands on Atlanta Americorps.

Furthermore, Ms. Moten is currently pursuing her Ed.D. in Counseling Psychology from the American School of Professional School Psychology, and previously earned a Bachelors of Art in Psychology from Spelman College, and a Masters of Art in Community Counseling from the Georgia School of Professional Psychology. She has received formal academic training in the areas of Brief Psychotherapy, Cognitive-Behavioral, Behavioral, Existential, Interpersonal, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, and Constructivist Therapy. Finally, her research interests are as follows: (a) dating violence, (b) date and acquaintance rape, (c) eating disorders, (d) self-mutilation, and (e) female genital mutilation.

http://www.datingviolence.org/

Featured Independent Music Artist and Song

Natalie Brown
Pop/Blue-eyed Soul/R&B – Vocalist & Songwriter

 

Born in Canada, Natalie Brown’s passion for music was nurtured from a young age by her involvement in theater, gospel music, creative writing and local session work as a vocalist and writer. Upon deciding to pursue a professional music career, she moved to California and was selected to sing with internationally acclaimed Gospel recording artist Ron Kenoly during his “Welcome Home” tour in 1996. She toured around the USA and upon returning to California, Natalie studied with world-renowned vocal instructors Seth Riggs (Stevie Wonder, Tevin Campbell, Deborah Cox) and Dave Stroud (Terry Ellis of En Vogue, Rosie Gaines).

Natalie’s debut album was released in late 2000 and contained thirteen original songs. Created with a thoughtful range of subject matter, tempo and mood throughout the album, “Let The Candle Burn” was enthusiastically welcomed by fans and industry personnel alike. She painted an interesting tapestry of sound on an album that included carefree, upbeat tracks, mid-tempo chillout songs and sweet soulful ballads.

Natalie returned to the studio to record the 2003 Holiday album entitled “A Cool Christmas”, a 10 song Cool R&B/Pop influenced collection of Holiday favorites. The album included the beloved “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas”, the soaring chime of “Silver Bells” and the quietly understated “I’ll Be Home For Christmas”. Natalie pulled Ray Charles’ “Christmas Time” out of the archives and gave it a light, airy spin that served the tune well. Up-tempo numbers included a Swing infused “Let It Snow” and a contemporary pairing of “Winter Wonderland” and “Sleigh Ride”. A mellow-groove rendition of “Give Love on Christmas Day” rounded out the sure-to-please Holiday offering.

In the Spring of 2004 the digital singles ‘I Wonder’ and ‘Queen of Me’ were made available on Natalie’s official site. The songs garnered tremendous attention and In July 2004, ‘Queen of Me’ was released by Avex, Inc. Japan on the “Soul Essentials 7″ series with songs by Rahsaan Patterson, Earth, Wind & Fire and others.

Much to the delight of fans eagerly awaiting new material, January 30th, 2009 saw the release of the long awaited sophomore album “Random Thoughts”. The album features a selection of songs with varying themes (Natalie’s Random Thoughts) that range from the inspiring “Hold Your Head Up High”, the girl power anthem “Queen of Me” and the uplifting “It’s A Beautiful Day”, to the thought provoking “What’s Going on Next Door?”, the unity rallying call of “Come Closer”, the sultry “How I Love 2 Love U”, the soulful “You’re Mysterious” and signature love ballad “I Knew You Were The One”, and more.
Natalie has actively been licensing her music for Film/TV and Commercial placements for the past 7 years. She’s had music placed on every major North American cable network and premium television programs across the globe. A partial listing of domestic placements can be found on her website.
Natalie currently resides in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Other than music, she enjoys reading, creating custom jewelry, mentoring other artists, watching movies, hanging out on Twitter and shopping.

Official Web Site: www.natalie-brown (natalie DASH brown DOT com)
Twitter: www.twitter.com/Natalie_Brown (Natalie UNDERSCORE Brown)
Facebook: www.facebook.com/NatalieBrownMusic
MySpace: www.myspace.com/NatalieBrown


Elin Stebbins Waldal on Courage Empowerment Forum, Featuring the Music of Girls Against Abuse

A secret so painful forced one woman to write a book and reveal a secret to her children that she had kept from them for so long.  Elin was just 17 when she fell in love with an abusive man, a man who  ”whittled her down –with words, hands, and weapons –from a confident teen to the shadow of a woman.”

In this week’s broadcast of Lyn Twyman’s Courage Empowerment Forum, first time author Elin Stebbins Waldal will share with us the inspiration behind her newly released work Tornado Warning.  Tornado Warning is Elin’s memoir of teen dating violence and the effects it had on her life.  We’ll look at what made Elin reveal this secret and why she continues to spread the message of confidence to other young girls through her organization Girls kNOw More.

We’ll also be featuring the music of The Girls Against Abuse, the vision of Music Producer Jason Brawner who spent several years working with artists from the hit show, American Idol.

Go to the link and listen live Tuesday night at 9pm ET!  www.party934.com

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Visit host Lyn Twyman’s site at http://www.lyntwyman.com

About broadcast guest Elin Stebbins Waldal

Elin Stebbins Waldal is a writer, a speaker, and the founder of Girls kNOw More, an organization whose mission is to help build confidence in middle-school-age girls.

Elin is the Love Is Not Abuse Coalition State Action Leader for California, which advocates for legislation that will require teen dating abuse curriculum in all middle schools, high schools and colleges.  She is also a regular presenter for Laura’s House, an Orange County resource for victims of domestic violence. She was recognized with an Honorable Mention Award in the World of Difference Category by The San Diego County Office of Education for speaking and educating high school students. Additionally, she is a California state certified domestic violence advocate.

She has contributed to The Courage Network, Safe World for Women, and She Writes on-line periodicals and also serves as a San Diego Examiner reporter on the subject of teen dating violence.

Elin lives in Southern California with her husband, three children, and their family dog.

 

Featured Independent Music Artist

The Girls Against Abuse

The “Girls Against Abuse” project is the vision of Music Producer Jason Brawner who spent several years working with artists from the hit show, American Idol. Through his many years of teaching the craft of songwriting and producing music, Jason discovered a disturbing trend of abuse and mistreatment in the lives of young women. Jason says,“Writing albums with singer/songwriters on a daily basis, I get to know them quite quickly. Far too often, I’m horrified encountering reoccurring themes of mistreatment and abuse in the lives of young women. Whether it comes from someone in their home or family, school, work, or a boyfriend, emotional and physical violence have critical effects on the victims.” What Jason has discovered working with the 70 percent of his artists that have been abused or mistreated unfortunately confirms these disturbing statistics:
  • 1 in 5 high school girls report experiencing teen dating violence.
  • Domestic violence kills and injures more girls/women than car accidents and cancer combined.
  • There were 10,088 Domestic violence crimes in Los Angeles County with 8,352 of those crimes involving a weapon in 2009, based on L.A. County Sheriff’s statistics.
On The Girls Against Abuse CD’s, options for action are encouraged in the words of the edgy heartfelt pop/rock songs sung by female artists who have made a commitment in their own lives to stand against all forms of mistreatment and abuse. The artists and producer all donate their own time for performances as well as their music for the CD’s that are available for a donation at events and on iTunes, as well as other online sites such as CDBaby.com.
The Girls Against Abuse has helped to raise awareness in the community through concerts, radio and television appearances, high school shows, fundraising and community events. Through their awareness campaign they have helped to raise over $7,000 over the past year and a half for violence prevention programs for youth, as well as community organizations and shelters that help families by providing parenting education and domestic violence services.
Their goal is to bring awareness through public performances and school events, to raise money for organizations that educate and support those in abusive situations and to provide CD’s with a positive message. Music is the universal “language” that has the ability to touch hearts…this positive music project’s aim is to help women and youth “Recognize, Resist and Recover” from abuse and mistreatment.http://www.thegirlsagainstabuse.com/


When Family and Friends Compromise Your Security

Many of us are brought up with the belief that we should be able to trust our family for everything, our safety, security, emotional and physical well being but for some of us, the family has proven to be the most hurtful and even most dangerous battle ground we will ever encounter. Survivors and family violence advocates can attest to this all the time, making it almost become a myth that the family is the safest environment. I’ve talked to many people who have shared their deep, painful pasts about loved ones, mothers, fathers, siblings and spouses who have betrayed them through abuse. When a family member abuses you, it becomes an unsettling, traumatic experience to say the least. We feel that we can no longer trust others and ask ourselves how can we ever trust others again?

So what happens if you ask for help or just mere moral support from a family member to get you through or even after the abuse, only for you to learn they too cannot be trusted, that they actually went to the abuser and disclosed private information about you? At that point you don’t know all that has been said but through some event, you learn that this once trusted family member has indeed betrayed your trust and with the abuser of all people. This revelation burns at your core and eats away at you, perhaps making you feel vulnerable. It makes you wonder if they ever believed you in the first place. It re-victimizes you.

Whether the offending family member ever believed the abuse did occur or not does not matter at this point. You now have an obligation to yourself to remain physically and emotionally safe from any further abuse. You also have to wonder how many people have lost their lives to abusers, not because the system failed but because family members failed and failed miserably, either by calling the abuser, writing them or even befriending them on social media sites, disclosing personal information about you. What I have found about people who are so willing to go to abusers, and violate your trust as the victim, is they are often susceptible at being manipulated and victimized as well. In this case, they have been manipulated by the abuser, charmed into gaining the abuser’s trust so the abuser can acquire more information about you. All the abuser wants to do is continue his bondage and control over you and the family member is allowing themselves to be used as a tool.

Abusers rarely stop abusing; they rarely stop victimizing and abuse is like an addiction. If you take away the drug of abuse, all the abuser wants is to go back and abuse more. They get an adrenaline high from controlling and hurting the object of their abuse, the victim. Abusers never completely let go and let’s face it, someone who has lived their life in attempts to psychologically and physically control others isn’t just going to give it up. It’s an addiction.

So, as a survivor, you’ve worked hard to get away from this abusive person and you’re thrown this curve ball by a family member you thought you could trust who goes back to the abuser and discloses information about you, your whereabouts, address, pictures, updates on your lifestyle, work, new friends and acquaintances, etc. What do you do? How do you handle this? With all cards put aside, now you are left with a dynamic  shift in your relationship with the family member or even friend. There are four things I want to share that I believe may help you:

1. Remember your safety is first and foremost – When someone discloses personal information about you to the abuser, you can never guarantee from that point on what that person says is truth. You can only assume and assumptions are not good enough when it comes to your life. Take all necessary steps to find out as much as you can from the family member in terms of what they repeated back to the abuser. From there take the necessary actions to be extra cautious, either way. Change your phone number, email address, driving routes, ask for a schedule change at work if possible, increase security at your home or even move. You may have to notify a neighbor to be on the lookout for any suspicious activity and don’t neglect to notify your local police depending on the severity of your circumstance with the abuser.

2. Remember you have a right to your privacy that not even the police have the right to disclose your whereabouts – The family member who chose to share personal information about you has taken a liberty upon themselves that even the police nor a private investigator cannot do under law and that’s disclose someone’s whereabouts and other data without that person’s consent or without a court order. What the family member did was wrong and there is nothing that can justify it. Whether the breach in your privacy occurred because of their lack of judgment or because of malice does not matter. Again your safety is first and foremost beyond their motives.

3. Give a written warning and perhaps a verbal warning to the family member or friend – Let the family member know what they did was wrong, they are not to divulge personal information about you and if you have warned them before about your right to privacy, remind them again. State specifically, ‘I do not want you sharing my information to anyone about me without my consent, not even to people you believe I may know and not even to my abuser.’ Also let them know that if you are hurt as a result of their actions with the abuser or the abuser’s acquaintances, they can be held legally responsible for your endangerment.

4. Distance yourself from that family member or friend who breached your trust – It’s obvious they lack the necessary concern, discernment and care they need to have for your situation so again, for your safety, it may be more than wise to eliminate any further communication with the family member. As mentioned before, you may have to change your phone number, email, work schedule, etc.

The scars left behind by abusers run deep no matter if the abuse was physical or non-physical. NO ONE has the right to make any decision on your behalf, especially when it comes to your personal and private information. Be careful who you speak with and what you say to them or what you post online, even to family members. Know that your life, happiness and well being is precious and extremely valuable. No one has the right to take that away from you and you have rights even when it comes to family.